[Jan can recognize Kara's words and impulse as kind, and she's not really against talking in principle-- but talking about her feelings is not her preferred method to deal with upset. she has a lot of stakes wrapped up in being tough, able to shoulder her own distress even if she expresses it to others. part of her wants to instinctively bristle at the idea that she needs help; another part of her recognizes that that's stupid. she sighs, compromising.]

I don't know what there is to help about it. We're all stuck here. Aren't you thinking the same thing?